“Family”

Mim and Marian eating lutefisk dinner at St. Olaf College about 40 years ago.

Mim and Marian eating lutefisk dinner
at St. Olaf College about 40 years ago.

About 40 years ago, I went “home” with Mim for the first time. We drove from Chicago to Kenyon, Minnesota, at least a seven-hour drive, the first weekend in December. In Kenyon, we picked up Mim’s mom, Selma, and drove another 15 miles to go to the St. Olaf College Christmas concert. Mim’s mom, who worked in food service at St. Olaf, was able to get us tickets for the concert, a major achievement for a very popular annual concert.  That was the first of many St. Olaf Christmas concerts I went to with Mim and her mom.

That was also the first time I went with Mim to her home church, Gol Lutheran Church in rural Kenyon. It had been Mim’s family church on her mom’s side for four generations, ever since they immigrated from Norway. Also, Mim’s dad had been the pastor at Gol for 20years.

Mim - Selma outside church 125th adjMy first reaction to Mim’s church was – what a beautiful old country church. I was a little frustrated with trying to follow the liturgy, which was much more structured than I was used to, having grown up a Methodist. Mim’s mom was proud to have her daughter and her roommate home for the weekend, so we stood around and talked to a lot of people after the service. That was not my favorite part of the weekend! Making small talk with strangers has never been one of my strengths.

Over the next 20 years, Mim and I went to Kenyon to visit Selma one or two weekends a year, and we always went to church with her. Gradually, I got to know a few of the people in the church and I started to feel a little more at home there.

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Mim and Selma at Gol’s 125th Anniversary

In 1989, Gol celebrated its 125th anniversary in style. Mim and I joined Selma for the whole weekend, and we all enjoyed lots of music, lots of eating, lots of picture taking, and an original play that taught us lots about Gol church history.

Twenty-five years later, last weekend, Gol celebrated its 150th anniversary. Mim really wanted to participate in the celebration. I was considerably less enthusiastic about spending a whole weekend in Kenyon, Minnesota with a couple hundred people I didn’t know.  At best, I might know two or three people. But, I figured this is one of those things you have to do for family. So we spent the weekend in Minnesota.

Much to my surprise, I had a great time all weekend. “Family” really is the key word. As Philip Yancey, one of my favorite authors, has said, “I go to church as an expression of my need for God and for God’s family.” We spent the weekend with one particular branch of God’s family. We were with about 250 of God’s family members – almost all of Norwegian descent. I think everyone had great appreciation for Norwegian-American church history, food, and music. Of the 250 people, I recognized about a dozen of them from my previous visits to Gol. Mim introduced me to about another dozen of her old friends. All 24 of them were people I enjoyed visiting with. I’ll have to admit, it was kind of fun to get together with this big extended church family.

The Rev. John Hagen, a former pastor of Gol, preached briefly from the steps of the farmhouse where the congregation met before the church was built.

The Rev. John Hagen, a former pastor of Gol, preached briefly from the steps of the farmhouse where the congregation had met before the church was built.

Finally I’m beginning to understand that my extended church family is growing bigger and bigger. It started with the church of my childhood  – Willerup United Methodist Church in Cambridge. Even though Willerup is no longer the church where I regularly go to worship God, I still feel connected to some of God’s family members who worship there. I also feel connected to the building itself where I spent literally thousands of hours (on average 4 hours per week, 52 weeks a year, 18 years plus 4 summers during my college years) learning about God. I also feel a connection to the cemetery next door where my parents, grandparents, great grandparents, and other relatives are buried.

My growing extended church family also includes members of Resurrection Lutheran Church in Chicago, Messiah Lutheran Church in Madison, as well as other churches I have been a part of over the years. And since Gol is a big part of Mim’s church family, it has also become part of my church family.

The more I think about my extended church family, the more I realize how big it really is. Beyond all the church family members I know personally, God’s family is described in the Bible this way:

Now you are no longer strangers to God and foreigners to heaven, but you are members of God’s very own family, citizens of God’s country, and you belong in God’s household with every other Christian. What a foundation you stand on now: the apostles and the prophets; and the cornerstone of the building is Jesus Christ himself! We who believe are carefully joined together with Christ as parts of a beautiful, constantly growing temple for God. And you also are joined with him and with each other by the Spirit, and are part of this dwelling place of God. [Ephesians 2:19-22 The Living Bible]

Spending last weekend with all the people celebrating the 150-year history of one small branch of God’s family in Minnesota reminded me of the Bill Gaither song, “The Family of God.” Here’s the chorus:

I’m so glad I’m a part of the family of God
I’ve been washed in the fountain, cleansed by His blood!
Joint heirs with Jesus as we travel this sod;
For I’m part of the family, the family of God.

Gol Group Picture 125th

“Part of the family, the family of God”

9 thoughts on ““Family”

  1. I love this story. I was astonished to see my cousin Kathryn Bakke Hagen’s husband Pastor John Hagen. At least, it looks like him, but there are several ELCA pastors with that name. My Rev. John Hagen is now retired and lives in Hudson, WI. Do you think it’s the same one? I know he pastored several churches around the Midwest.

    • I think we’re talking about different John Hagens. The one at Gol last weekend is retired and lives in Faribault, MN. His wife’s name is Diane.

      John was pastor at Gol from 1973 to 1992, the years Mim and I lived in Chicago and Selma lived alone in Minnesota. John and Diane “adopted” Selma as a grandmother for their kids. In 1993 when Selma had a stroke and came to live with us in Wisconsin, John and Diane came down to visit her, especially on her birthday. To mix metaphors – John truly pastored his flock, and he cared for the widows of his congregation as family.

      I guess the ELCA has been fortunate to have more than one John Hagen!

  2. A lovely family post…reminds me how glad I am to be part of the family, the family of God. When one has a heartache we all share the tears, and rejoice in each victory…in this family so dear. Thanks, I’m feeling happily centered in this moment!

    • I’m also thankful for our blogging family. I don’t know if I’ll ever meet you face-to-face, but I look forward to reading your comments. I feel we’re becoming friends and family thru this media.

  3. Yup, that’s what family does. That’s why I was at a family reunion in Elgin, IL on Sunday with a whole lot of other things I’d rather have been doing. I was doing it for the smile on my Dad’s face, but guess what, like you, I ended up having a pretty good time! Amazing how that happens sometimes. Glad you had a good time, too.

  4. Wonderful account of attending an event that we are not drawn to…. I love the reference to Ephesians 2…. We are members of God’s family, and His family is pretty big.
    I remember many reunions with Dean’s families. Many members show up and while listening to them reminisce, I would usually find myself in conversation with someone that I did not know. And after a short time we were enjoying whatever it was we were discussing, and our time together!

    Thanks for sharing this story!

  5. Hello from sweden today in blessing too joy and sowing our seed in favor of God and be the souls winners with the HOly Spirit with us to quard and helping us ,in Jesus name,thanks and bless and win,keijo sweden

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